Her Talents are not my Talents.
I am not being sexist, your wife does things better than you do. She is going to have natural abilities and gifts that you don’t have, that is why God has brought her into your life. She “completes you” or I hope so?
She is my BFF.
Ministry is a lonely place sometimes. If you read any of the Lifeway polls or have read Church Next by Gibbs, pastors are lonely people with few close friends. If you are in youth ministry there may be even more of a separation from other adults. An involved wife can be that friend you need to confide in, talk to, and who understands. Hopefully, the person you marry/married really is your “BFF” already.
My On-board GPS.
A wife that is actively involved and is actually present in your ministry is the instant guidance system you need. You are half-way through a lesson and you are not sure if your students are getting it, lookout to find your wife and get an instant reading. You are about to say something that begs for a flood of angry phone calls, you can get the “slight don’t you dare look”. She also can point you to the student or leader that you are missing and that needs your attention.
Better Safe than Sorry?
We live in a world of lawsuits and abuse. Having a wife that is there with you in person gives you added protection from accusations, invitation, or even just appearances. A student or even a leader is far less likely to “get the wrong idea” if your wife is nearby. She also can be the “voice of reason” for your next set of great game ideas that include projectiles, fire, and chubby bunnies?
Yep, that is exactly what I am talking about “those female issues”. Surprisingly your 6th-grade girls don’t want to talk to you as a guy (even though I am a dad) about their time of the month that started during your week-long mission trip. Although I have learned to come fully stocked with a variety of items in my “youth pastor bag”(*click to see) including a full variety of those kinds of things, your wife is far better at dealing with those things. Of course, that is not the only female issue that will come up in your ministry and each of those it so helpful to have a wife involved and available for the emotional, social, mental and spiritual lives of your girls
My Other Leader.
Whether it be to your students, your volunteers, or moms having a female lead leader is so valuable. For many of the areas, that I have already mentioned, but for so many others having your “other half” there to be your “other half” leaders is beyond priceless. Whether she is “paid to be there” or not, she is looked at as part of the package. If she understands that and owns that, both of you will gain in eyes of your ministry, but also with parents and the rest of the church.
A Different Perspective.
Somewhat related to the being your onboard GPS, your wife can offer you a different and female perspective on things. Whether it be a passage you are teaching on, a counseling issue, or just plain your ministry vision. She offers to you a second set of eyes and ears on, well. pretty much everything. There are things you are just going to miss or not get without her.
The Checking Account.
No, I am not talking about money, although that could be a great bonus #11, I am talking about accountability. You may already have an accountability partner, but your wife is the original true partner and one you are accountable to before God. Who else in your life is going to know you as well as your wife? If your wife is a part of your ministry she can keep your accountable, keep you real, and keep in you in check. She can call you out in the areas you need it. She will also…stop and read slowly…Keep You Humble!
She is already up there as your wife. You should (if you don’t) be putting her up on a pedestal in your marriage. Let’s be honest, our ministry/church is putting you both up there too. Whether you like it or not, you, your wife, your family, and your marriage are being looked at and examined under a microscope. Biblically that is kind of part of the job description, see I Timothy 3:1-7 and Titus 1:5-9. MS/JH students coming from broken homes and broken lives are looking to see if you really are the husband, father, and person you are teaching about. Your wife and you walking together visibly in ministry gives your students an example of marriage. Your wife involved gives both male and female students an example of a Godly Woman. Choose to embrace the ups and downs of our lives to be appropriately honest and real about who we are as individuals and as a couple. Your wife whether or not she shows up to your meetings and events is still an example.