Ten Reason Why Key Leaders of Ministries Fail

I grew up in a pastor’s home. Some of my best friends growing up with were pastor’s kids. We would go to ministry conferences as a family growing, so I was able to quietly observed ministry leaders from behind the curtain.    I attended a private Christian school and was part of the youth ministry […]

“Three Lesson from ‘Over the Hill’ Youth Ministry”

Yesterday I celebrated my 46th birthday, and in November I celebrated my 26th year of youth ministry.  I am now into my 27th year of youth ministry, 23 years of full-time, on-staff church youth ministry.  Here are just three lessons I have learned from being “over the hill”. There is a growing trend among youth […]

Defining Success In Youth Ministry!

People all the time ask me “how do you define success?” or “how do I know I am being successful?”  It fills blogs, books, and staff meetings.  It is the make or break for many in youth ministry, and often is the difference between keeping or losing a job. It is tricky question with a […]

An Uncool Calling to Youth Ministry

I recently read the Instagram post from Skillet frontman, John Copper, called “Make Pastors Uncool Again”. In it, he addresses the continual trend of cool and hip pastors that acts more like rockstars than pastors… “..promotes himself, builds his brand, and entertains people..”   This continues to be true for so many pastors in general, but […]

Holiday/Black Friday Deal: THREE FREE GAMES

TO THANK EVERYONE FOR ALL OF YOUR SUPPORT OVER THE LAST COUPLE MONTHS OF THIS SITE, AS I WENT THROUGH A DIFFICULT SEASON TRANSITIONING OUT OF MY CHURCH INTO A NEW CHURCH AFTER A “LAY-OFF” DUE TO COVID. I  WANT TO OFFER YOU UP A VERY SPECIAL THANK YOU! HERE ARE THREE FREE GAMES ON US! […]

Are You Cheating? (An Emotional Affair WITH Your Ministry)

An emotional affair is defined as, “A relationship, which excludes physical intimacy but includes emotional intimacy. A relationship…. other than with ones’ spouse that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage.” Does that sound at all familiar to you? How about if I was not […]

Beware of Ministry Pied Pipers

As the legend goes, the little town of Hamelin was overrun with rats.  Tried as they could the town could not get rid of the rats, then came a pied piper, a man dressed in fun colorful clothes and playing beautiful music.  He claimed he could rid the town of their problem for a rather […]

Top 10: The Heartaches of a Youth Pastor

10. Seeing A Key Leadership Student, Turn Away from God and Church.  9.  Trying to Give Comfort to a Student Feeling Like it Somehow Their Fault Their Parent’s Marriage Is Falling Apart. 8. Hearing the Story of A Student, Finally Revealing the Hidden Abuse That is Going on At Home.  7. Being Criticized for Decisions, […]

“More Than a Face: Hiring (& Recruiting) Well in Youth Ministry”

I was talking to a pastor not long ago, about his recent hire of a youth leader for his church.  He was so excited by the opportunity to have a “face” for his church’s youth ministry.  He described the young man as “attractive” to young people and the kind of “look” and “style” that would […]