Are You Cheating? (An Emotional Affair WITH Your Ministry)

An emotional affair is defined as, “A relationship, which excludes physical intimacy but includes emotional intimacy. A relationship…. other than with ones’ spouse that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage.” Does that sound at all familiar to you? How about if I was not […]

Goodie-Two-Shoes OR Godly-Two-Feet?

Margery Meanwell was a poor orphan girl that lived on the streets. She was a sweet kind girl always doing good for others, even though she was poor and had nothing. She was recognized throughout the town as the girl with only one shoe. As the story goes, one day a rich, gentlemen seeing her […]

Top 10: Do You Remember When… (Youth Ministry Edition)

10. …You could play an upfront game using peanut butter and no one died? 9.  … You could serve soda and chips as a snack instead of celery sticks, saltines and water? 8.  …. You played dodgeball with over-inflated playground balls or under-inflated volleyballs? 7.  …. Taking a couple of your students out for ice […]

The Difference Between Program and Ministry

Years ago, I sat in at Youth Specialties’ National Youth Workers Convention, listening to Kara Powell, talk about her research connected to the new Sticky Faith book. I remember her on the main stage talking about programs being a tunnel to ministry but not being our ministry.  She warned the crowd to make sure to […]

Top 10: Favorite Ministry Podcasts

Podcasts are popping up everywhere right now and Youth Ministry is no exception!  People ask me all the time which ones I listen too.  I also get quite a few people asking, when I will start one, and it may or may not be coming!   I know my daughter, Jenna, REALLY wants to start […]

“More Than a Face: Hiring (& Recruiting) Well in Youth Ministry”

I was talking to a pastor not long ago, about his recent hire of a youth leader for his church.  He was so excited by the opportunity to have a “face” for his church’s youth ministry.  He described the young man as “attractive” to young people and the kind of “look” and “style” that would […]

“Don’t Walk This Tightrope Alone?” (The Nets of Youth Ministry)

Would you ever venture out on a tightrope without a safety net below? If you would, you are a braver person than me! I like my safety nets and for that fact my legs and face intact!    Isn’t that sort of what we do in youth ministry.  We put ourselves on a tight rope, up high in […]

“Un-blurring the Lines” (appropriate relationship with students)

I read another story this morning of a former youth leader caught and arrested for an inappropriate relationship with a student.   My heart breaks every time I read one of these stories. The evening news, newspapers, and internet seems like a running weekly ticker update on the latest teacher, coach and yes,” youth pastors” […]

Bonus Top 10: “Youth Group Games I Will Never Play Again”

WE ALL HAVE THOSE MOMENTS.  MAYBE IT IS THE LACK OF SLEEP OR OVER CAFFIENATED BRAIN SYNDROME, BUT YOU DECIDE TO PLAY A GAME THAT YOU THINK WILL BE AMAZING, BUT IT IS NOT!!  HERE ARE 10 GAMES I HAVE PLAYED IN REAL-LIFE OVER 25 YEARS AND I WILL NEVER PLAY AGAIN…MAYBE…YEAH PROBALLY NOT?  10. Smear the Christian? (must like […]