Are You Cheating? (An Emotional Affair WITH Your Ministry)

An emotional affair is defined as, “A relationship, which excludes physical intimacy but includes emotional intimacy. A relationship…. other than with ones’ spouse that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage.” Does that sound at all familiar to you? How about if I was not […]

The Difference Between Program and Ministry

Years ago, I sat in at Youth Specialties’ National Youth Workers Convention, listening to Kara Powell, talk about her research connected to the new Sticky Faith book. I remember her on the main stage talking about programs being a tunnel to ministry but not being our ministry.  She warned the crowd to make sure to […]

“More Than a Face: Hiring (& Recruiting) Well in Youth Ministry”

I was talking to a pastor not long ago, about his recent hire of a youth leader for his church.  He was so excited by the opportunity to have a “face” for his church’s youth ministry.  He described the young man as “attractive” to young people and the kind of “look” and “style” that would […]

5 Warning Signs of Selfish Leadership?

Mark 12:38-40: As he taught, Jesus said, “Watch out for the teachers of the law. They like to walk around in flowing robes and be greeted with respected title in the marketplaces, and have the most important seats in the synagogues and the places of honor at banquets.They devour widows’ houses and for a show make […]

Why Are You Hitting Yourself? (Dealing with Micro-Managing Leaders)

We all know the time-honored phrase and what accompanies it, “Why are you hitting yourself?”  It is repeated by older siblings, classmates, and others as they grab our hand, overpower us, and beat us silly.   While it may not happen physically to us, as we get older and stronger, it still does sometimes happens […]

“Middle Years Ministry Soul Care” (Caroline Smallwood)

A temptation in ministry is to go without stopping, give without receiving and work without ceasing. Although this usually comes from a good heart, it does not reflect Jesus’ ministry while on earth. When Jesus fed the 5,000 He gave more than He had to offer, but, immediately afterward He sent his disciples away so […]