“Three Lesson from ‘Over the Hill’ Youth Ministry”

Yesterday I celebrated my 46th birthday, and in November I celebrated my 26th year of youth ministry.  I am now into my 27th year of youth ministry, 23 years of full-time, on-staff church youth ministry.  Here are just three lessons I have learned from being “over the hill”. There is a growing trend among youth […]

Defining Success In Youth Ministry!

People all the time ask me “how do you define success?” or “how do I know I am being successful?”  It fills blogs, books, and staff meetings.  It is the make or break for many in youth ministry, and often is the difference between keeping or losing a job. It is tricky question with a […]

An Uncool Calling to Youth Ministry

I recently read the Instagram post from Skillet frontman, John Copper, called “Make Pastors Uncool Again”. In it, he addresses the continual trend of cool and hip pastors that acts more like rockstars than pastors… “..promotes himself, builds his brand, and entertains people..”   This continues to be true for so many pastors in general, but […]

Are You Cheating? (An Emotional Affair WITH Your Ministry)

An emotional affair is defined as, “A relationship, which excludes physical intimacy but includes emotional intimacy. A relationship…. other than with ones’ spouse that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage.” Does that sound at all familiar to you? How about if I was not […]

Top 10: The Heartaches of a Youth Pastor

10. Seeing A Key Leadership Student, Turn Away from God and Church.  9.  Trying to Give Comfort to a Student Feeling Like it Somehow Their Fault Their Parent’s Marriage Is Falling Apart. 8. Hearing the Story of A Student, Finally Revealing the Hidden Abuse That is Going on At Home.  7. Being Criticized for Decisions, […]

“More Than a Face: Hiring (& Recruiting) Well in Youth Ministry”

I was talking to a pastor not long ago, about his recent hire of a youth leader for his church.  He was so excited by the opportunity to have a “face” for his church’s youth ministry.  He described the young man as “attractive” to young people and the kind of “look” and “style” that would […]

“Why Are You Hitting Yourself?” (dealing with micromanagers & bullies)

We all know the time-honored phrase and what accompanies it, “Why are you hitting yourself?”  It is repeated by older siblings, classmates, and others as they grab our hand, overpower us, and beat us silly.   While it may not happen physically to us, as we get older and stronger, it still does sometimes happens […]

M2P Featured Post:”5 Communication Mistakes Leaders Make with Volunteers”

“As ministry leaders, most of us are paid communicators. Our churches and organizations give us the mic and turn up the volume when we have something to say. It is our job to be the upfront and loud person. For some reason, though, many leaders are just not very clear when it comes to communicating […]

Top 10: Ways You Might Be Losing Respect as a Youth Leader?

10. Your Pants.  Put some on! The cut-off jean shorts or your baggy basketball shorts were just not the right pick for doing grandma Jone’s funeral last week. 9. Your Car. Your students think ithe tinted windows and low riding is cool but your Sr. Pastor gets kind of nervous every time you say, “You got caught […]

A Leader OF Leaders OR A Leader WITH Leaders?

It was years ago, I sat on the other side of his desk.   I was new and it was just a few weeks into my new job.  I was excited because it was going to be my first time working in a church with another youth pastor on staff with me.  I had been additionally […]