Are You Cheating? (An Emotional Affair WITH Your Ministry)

An emotional affair is defined as, “A relationship, which excludes physical intimacy but includes emotional intimacy. A relationship…. other than with ones’ spouse that has an impact on the level of intimacy, emotional distance and overall dynamic balance in the marriage.” Does that sound at all familiar to you? How about if I was not […]

Top 10: Ways Toddlers and Middle Schoolers are the SAME!?

10. Will put anything in their mouth?…did you get that off the floor??! 9. Always want a snack? …you just had half a pizza, a bag of chips and a 2 liter? 8. In a constant state of mood swings?…why are you crying and laughing at the same time?? 7. Think that farting and burping […]

Game: “Block-tionary (Up-Front Group Game/Team Building)

Pictionary Meets Jenga Meets Charades Meets Your Youth Group!?  It is a quick silly upfront group game, that also can make a great icebreaker or team builder.    Here is the simple idea behind  “BLOCK-TIONARY”!  Supplies: – Children’s Wooden Building Blocks (or Jenga Blocks) – A Tall Table – Index Cards Set up: – Have a […]

60 Second Hints: Ways Keep Yourself & Your Ministry Culturally Relevant

Here is your 60 seconds to a more culturally relevent ministry and to keep yourself at least aware of popular culture, remembering that every area, group, and church is it’s own sub-culture . What is “in”, current and relevant nationally or other places may not necessarily always be what is current in your context, so […]

Top 10: Do You Remember When… (Youth Ministry Edition)

10. …You could play an upfront game using peanut butter and no one died? 9.  … You could serve soda and chips as a snack instead of celery sticks, saltines and water? 8.  …. You played dodgeball with over-inflated playground balls or under-inflated volleyballs? 7.  …. Taking a couple of your students out for ice […]

The Difference Between Program and Ministry

Years ago, I sat in at Youth Specialties’ National Youth Workers Convention, listening to Kara Powell, talk about her research connected to the new Sticky Faith book. I remember her on the main stage talking about programs being a tunnel to ministry but not being our ministry.  She warned the crowd to make sure to […]

60 Second Hint: “Every Church is a Sub-Culture”

A NEW FEATURE…”60 SECOND HINT” TO HELP YOU TO A BETTER MINISTRY AND MAYBE LIFE? Each Church Is Its Own Sub-Culture…Every church has it’s own traditions, words, rules, and personality. Take the time when you arrive at a church to ask questions, learn and don’t just assume things. Churches like other countries and even families […]

Top 10: Favorite Ministry Podcasts

Podcasts are popping up everywhere right now and Youth Ministry is no exception!  People ask me all the time which ones I listen too.  I also get quite a few people asking, when I will start one, and it may or may not be coming!   I know my daughter, Jenna, REALLY wants to start […]

“More Than a Face: Hiring (& Recruiting) Well in Youth Ministry”

I was talking to a pastor not long ago, about his recent hire of a youth leader for his church.  He was so excited by the opportunity to have a “face” for his church’s youth ministry.  He described the young man as “attractive” to young people and the kind of “look” and “style” that would […]